What authentic people do differently than the rest of us, and how you can too
We tend to value “genuine” people and think poorly of those whom we perceive as being “fake”—but why is that? After all, what motivates “fakeness” is an effort to appear more appealing or impressive, so shouldn’t we find people who care about our opinions more appealing than those who, by definition, do their own thing regardless of what we think?
Well, no, we shouldn’t—and for three basic reasons:
Genuine people speak their mind.
This is actually a two-step habit. Genuine people take time to figure out their own opinions and perspectives about things, and they are not shy about sharing their thought-out opinions with others. The manner in which they share their opinions also matters: Genuine people are comfortable presenting their ideas without expecting or needing to convince others they are right. One thing that helps them get in touch with their true opinions and perspectives is…
Genuine people respond to internal expectations, not external ones.
Genuine people spend time thinking about and exploring their own beliefs, ideals, standards, and expectations because they rely on the answers to these questions to give them direction and purpose in life. Of course, identifying your own ideas and beliefs is not necessarily easy, since they can easily conflict with the beliefs and standards of the families, communities, and cultures in which you were raised. Indeed, being authentic is often associated with being brave because you’re then likely to do the following…
Genuine people forge their own paths.
Being authentic is not just about what you think or say but what you do and how you are in the world. Being guided by an internal compass means not having to follow the conventional or typical routes others take to achieve their goals. Therefore, genuine people search for and discover their own unique way of pursuing their passions and purpose, often forging an entirely new path as they do. The risk of forging a new and unproven path is that not all your efforts will be successful. However…
Genuine people are not threatened by failure.
The reason most people follow conventional routes is they are supposedly “proven” and “safer,” and therefore more likely to yield success. On the other hand, taking the road less (or never) traveled is risky and can lead to failure. Yet, genuine people do so because they are not threatened by the idea of failing. In fact, they view failure as an integral part of their journey, a source of learning, and an enriching experience from which they can grow. Because they find failures instructive rather than threatening…
Genuine people can admit their faults.To be true to your feelings and opinions you must first be honest with yourself about your thoughts, beliefs, and behavior—which means confronting the bad along with the good. As such, genuine people are likely to recognize their faults and shortcomings, to accept them, and to take responsibility for their actions as a result. Indeed, their general ability to own their faults, mistakes, and failures extends beyond how they see themselves such that…
Genuine people are not judgmental of others.Being honest about their own faults and embracing individuality and differences leads genuine people to be less judgmental and more accepting of the people around them. Their fundamental assumptions about human complexity and their reluctance to view people via the lens of bias or preconceived expectations allows them a purer perspective that usually leads to direct and honest interactions and relationships. And all of the habits listed above stem from one core psychological characteristic of genuine people…
Genuine people have solid self-esteem.Having solid self-esteem means having stable self-esteem that is neither too high nor too low. (Narcissists, for example, have high but brittle self-esteem.) As a result, genuine people can tolerate and absorb failure and criticism, admit their faults, and be accepting of others because they are not threatened by imperfection. Indeed, having solid self-esteem means, by definition, that you can absorb both negative and positive feedback and acknowledge aspects of your character that might need work or improvement without diminishing your overall sense of self-worth.
For scientifically proven ways to manage failure and enhance self-esteem check out Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure and Other Everyday Hurts (Plume, 2014).
Written By Guy Winch PhD.
Originally published on Psychology Today
Copyright 2015 Guy Winch
I was told once by a psychic counselor that the psychic business is pretty cut throat. The competition can sometimes make the best, most ethically-sound intuitives deviate from their path.
At the time I had been doing heavy research into psychic ability–trying to figure out the source of the information psychics were receiving–I realized later on that I was also doing research into the ethics and practices of psychics in our community. This is where I stumbled upon “psychic jealousy”–a very real and potentially damaging concept.
What Is Psychic Jealousy?
Psychic jealousy manifests itself when a psychic, for whatever reason, picks up on the energy of another psychic and seeks to prevent that psychic from developing. Psychic jealousy is not always an intentional feeling and is, in fact, a defense mechanism–especially when the psychic reader senses an energy stronger than that which they possess.
In my life, I have met a few psychics who had psychic jealousy. They were good, well-intentioned people; however, their jealousy got in the way of their readings.
How Do I Know If My Psychic Is Jealous?
There are a few warning signs that you are dealing with Psychic Jealousy from your reader.
1. The reader does not mention your psychic abilities. This does not always happen and some good, ethical psychics do not always mention psychic ability because they may feel it is irrelevant or inappropriate for the questions asked.
2. Their reading is vague, where testimonials do not consistantly reflect this. Again, this may also be due to not having a great connection to your psychic reader.
3. Specifically, if you are asking about psychic development and they suggest “questonable methods” of development. For example, I remember asking a psychic if I would ever start my own business as a tarot reader. She suggested I read books on the subject despite me reporting that I had been using tarot and had a pretty high accuracy rate to begin with. She also suggested I go into a back room of another business I could start and practice my readings. It was almost as if she wasn’t listening to me.
4. If you have visited several psychics before, and they have all told you the same thing and this particular psychic tells you the opposite, it may be due to psychic jealousy. It could also be due to the psychic having a bad day or, again, that you do not have a good connection with your psychic reader. It is not always necessary to visit “several psychics in order to get the information you need to improve your life; but if a trusted and reputatble psychic who is not jealous gives you information and you go to a psychic who may have issues, it’s better to trust your gut.
5. They suggest repeatedly that you have negative energy around you. I have found that when some psychics do this, they may be playing on your free will and they may use your free will against you to protect themselves and their livelihoods from you. Once, a psychic said there was negative energy around myself and that I needed to suround myself in white light. Oddly enough, I didn’t feel this negative energy until she had mentioned it. Well, when I did this, I saw myself being bound with white ribbons. If allowed to “bind myself”, I figured her motive would be that she would be free from blame, at the same time, protecting herself.
How Do I Deal With Psychic Jealousy?
The first thing you need to do when dealing with psychic jealousy is to trust yourself and your instincts. If something doesn’t seem quite right about the reader, trust yourself enough to recognize it. If the reader is making you feel uncomfortable, end the reading immediately. You do not need to explain why you are ending the reading. If you have gone too far and they have either given you a negative reading or tried to perform some sort of binding work on you under the guise of “spiritual counseling”, first, you need to understand the workings of Spirit and your spirit guides. They are there to protect you. Believe that they can help you and protect you from harm. Next, you need to understand free will. You are often exposed to negative elements because your own choices got you to that point. Your own choices can also undo negativity. If you are feeling bound, call upon your inner strength and your spirit guides to break through the feeling of being “bound”. If they gave you a negative reading–especially if it contradicts the readings of others, the best way to deal with it is to take it with a grain of salt and chaulk it up to them simply being wrong.
“As I began to love myself, my relationship with everyone changed.’
The simple meaning of being unfuckwithable is that you do not let anyone or anything bother you. It’s the highest state of your existence, of things you do, of place you live, of every moment of your life. It’s about being at peace with oneself so much that no action from outside can disrupt that.
Unfuckwithable is that state of being where you are completely in tune with your soul and free of expectations and attachments.
You have come to understand that expectation and attachment make you vulnerable and that makes you fuckwithable. You have learnt to let go of these vulnerabilities. You don’t have anything to win or lose. You have gone beyond the finite gameplay and embraced the infinite gameplay, continuing to be in the game without any particular motif. That makes you the strongest soul among all. You have truly understood the purpose of your existence.
If you are not sure whether you are unfuckwithable or not, here are
6 Signs That Say You’re Unfuckwithable(1) You have realized your self-worth:“Strong people have a strong sense of self-worth and self-awareness; they don’t need the approval of others.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart.
(1) You know the unique person you truly are. You are confident about yourself and no-one or nothing can push you into questioning this uniqueness. In fact, it is your ingenuity which acts as a fingerprint of your soul and can even mould a negative energy into a positive one.
(2) You focus on the thing you can control and leave the things you can’t:“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free.
You understand that it’s your own behaviour and actions which you can control. You also know that you can’t control others and so, you let go of the attachments and expectations. You embrace uncertainty and don’t get disturbed by the things you can’t take control of. You are more focused on yourself.
(3) You love yourself:“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.” ― C. JoyBell C.
You do not care if others love you or hate you. You treat your lovers and haters alike. You love yourself and that matters the most. This self-love removes all your insecurities. You are not scared of darker times because you have yourself and you know you can pass through it.
(4) You live life fearlessly:“To me, Fearless is not the absence of fear. It’s not being completely unafraid. To me, Fearless is having fears. Fearless is having doubts. Lots of them. To me, Fearless is living in spite of those things that scare you to death.” ― Taylor Swift.
You are more than willing to get out of comfort zone and face your fears. You accept all the challenges with a smiling face and evolve so that you can deal with them. You are continuously moulding yourself to face these obstacles. You are also well aware that you might lose everything but doesn’t stop you.
(5) You forgive:“To err is human, to forgive, divine.” ― Alexander Pope, An Essay on Criticism.
You understand that emotions like anger or hurt only pulls you back. No matter how wrong a person is, you forgive them and move on because you don’t have any attachments with anyone. Since actions of others don’t affect you, you can easily forgive. You know that past if past and only you can’t do anything about it. But you can change the future by actions of your present and you make the best out of it by forgiving and letting go off the attachments.
(6) You live your life on the edge:“Dance. Smile. Giggle. Marvel. TRUST. HOPE. LOVE. WISH. BELIEVE. Most of all, enjoy every moment of the journey, and appreciate where you are at this moment instead of always focusing on how far you have to go.” ― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass.
You live every day as if tomorrow might never exist. Nothing can pull you back; you don’t care about any shackle. You embrace what this universe has to offer; you let yourself sail on the flow of this universe. By doing this, you embrace positivity and spread positivity wherever you go.
Emilia Gordon November 30, 2017
We all get hit by life’s slings and arrows from time to time. They can come from a resident critic—a family member, friend, or co-worker who always finds something wrong—or as the occasional put-down that catches you by surprise. What do you do when an insult is hurled your way, privately or public ally? Do you pretend you didn’t hear it or hurl an insult right back? Do you internalise it or get angry and lash out?
You may not be able to stop someone’s nasty words or careless actions, but you can change how you deal with those barbs. They don’t have to take you down or tempt you to retaliate. Try these 10 healthy and empowering tips to meet insults and criticism gracefully and appropriately.
Tip #1: Assess Criticism and Who It Is Coming From
It’s important to get an accurate read on a situation to decide the best way to respond. There’s a big difference between constructive criticism from someone who loves you and getting bashed by someone who steals the stage to discredit you. You’ll need to get some objectivity before deciding whether it’s right to speak up or let it go.
Try this: Pull away from the situation and look at it without ego, as if you were observing someone else’s life. Is it possible you are being overly sensitive, or has someone treated you like a doormat without good reason? A clear sense of which it is will help you find the best solution.
Tip #2: Acknowledge Your Feelings
Pressure can build up when you don’t acknowledge what’s bothering you. When someone hurts you, especially someone close to you, you may stuff your feelings below the surface to avoid a confrontation. But your feelings are a key part of your internal guidance system—they warn you when something is wrong. By ignoring feelings, you create a larger problem to deal with later. By accepting the messages they bring, you’ll be able to deal more effectively with issues from the start.
Try this: Rather than slamming a lid over your emotions, notice them as they arise--without judging yourself or blaming others for making you upset. Ask yourself: If my feelings could talk right now, what would they say? What is this feeling asking me to do? What new choices can I make to help me feel at peace about this situation?
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It may seem like something out of a sci-fi movie, but living a parallel life may not be as far-fetched as you first imagined. Of course, it also depends on how you define the word “life”.
I have come to the understanding that all of us are living out parallel lives. Some of us are living out more lives than others, but all of us have at least one other life happening simultaneously as we move through our journey on Earth.
Let me explain…
Why We Are All Living Parallel ‘Lives’
The Higher SelfWhen a soul is ready to enter a body, only part of it reincarnates. The rest of your soul energy is left up in other realms and dimensions to carry out other ‘things’.
This part of you may be dormant or it could be living out a full and happy ‘life’ up in the higher realms.
This can also help to explain how a soul, who may have already reincarnated into another body and another life, can still visit and send messages to loved ones as the family member or friend they were once known as.
This essence of You that is in the higher realms, may also split or travel down to a dimension that is not Earth but is accessible to those living on Earth. This is the dimension or the realm of the Higher Self.
It is a jungle out there, and it is no less true about spiritual life than any other aspect of life. Do we really think that just because someone has been meditating for five years, or doing 10 years of yoga practice, that they will be any less neurotic than the next person? At best, perhaps they will be a little bit more aware of it. A little bit.
As I have come to know hundreds of spiritual teachers and spiritual practitioners through my work and travels, I have been struck by the way in which our spiritual views, perspectives and experiences become similarly "infected" by "conceptual contaminants" -- comprising a confused and immature relationship to complex spiritual principles can seem as invisible and insidious as a sexually transmitted disease.
The following 10 categorisations are not intended to be definitive but are offered as a tool for becoming aware of some of the most common spiritually transmitted diseases.
1. Fast-Food Spirituality: Mix spirituality with a culture that celebrates speed, multitasking and instant gratification and the result is likely to be fast-food spirituality. Fast-food spirituality is a product of the common and understandable fantasy that relief from the suffering of our human condition can be quick and easy. One thing is clear, however: spiritual transformation cannot be had in a quick fix.
2. Faux Spirituality: Faux spirituality is the tendency to talk, dress and act as we imagine a spiritual person would. It is a kind of imitation spirituality that mimics spiritual realisation in the way that leopard-skin fabric imitates the genuine skin of a leopard.
3. Confused Motivations: Although our desire to grow is genuine and pure, it often gets mixed with lesser motivations, including the wish to be loved, the desire to belong, the need to fill our internal emptiness, the belief that the spiritual path will remove our suffering and spiritual ambition, the wish to be special, to be better than, to be "the one."
If any of these animals accidentally cross your path, powerful omens are presented to you according to ancient cultures and their Old Ways.
Omens and the Old Religion During the Old Times, animals and plants were all associated with Gods and Goddess. Athena had Owl as her sacred animal while Poseidon protected Horses and Artemis (Diana) deers. Everyone had a soft spot for animals, therefore close encounters with animals were supposed to be divine interventions at some point. We have selected the ones who are considered to be the most powerful omens of all.
An important notice before analysing the omens. Sometimes, the “accidental” appearances of Animals can be the encounters of our Totem Animals, trying to catch our attention. For more information about how to find out your Totem Animal click here.
Owls are believed to be harbingers of doom and carriers of unimaginable wisdom at the same time.(Read here more about Owls as totem animals) Maybe owls know things and they appear to warn us about what is coming – usually something huge – either this is for good or ill. Owls have been associated with many gods and goddess but one of the most powerful association is with Athena (Minerva) the Goddess of Wisdom in Ancient Greece.
When an Owl appears one has to be extra careful about his/her next steps as the Owl tries to make us ready for what’s coming (it doesn’t have to be bad but it’s certainly very important or even life-changing). If you are a Witch, the appearance of an Owl probably means that our magic is strong and we should be very careful with the energies we summon. We should choose wisely!
Owls are not omens of Bad Luck or Harbingers of Doom (they can be if we see two owls fighting and shouting over a house). They are messengers of Great News. Owls are considered Royal Birds, therefore seeing them can be considered as omens of success.
Spiders are also associated with the Goddess Athena, the Goddess of Wisdom. Spiders are also considered sacred animals as their web symbolises that we are all connected with each other and all nature. However, the appearance of a Spider does not have the same meaning as Owls. Spiders are trying to “ward” or remind us of a friend.
In ancient time Spiders were omens for a friend (either from the past or a close friend). We will probably soon meet this friend who is going to give us brand new information. In general, Spiders are good omens, bearers of Good Luck.
“If you find a spider at night, it means good luck.” Kemp P. Battle
You walk by the street thinking of your daily routine when for some reason a cat caught your attention. You refuse to believe that this is important but the cat for some reason follows you and tries even harder to make you turn around. The cat is the personification of intuition (click here to read more about Cats as totem animals). When a Cat appears out of nowhere and for some reason and you can’t help but notice their weird and cute moves, it’s an omen (or omens) that you have to listen to your heart.
Cats are associated with powerful and Wise Goddesses like Bast, Freya and Brigid. The weird cat symbolises your hidden magical and spiritual powers which now you have to listen. If you are a witch then you should probably be more careful the next time you cast a spell as the cat tries to warn you that you’ve probably had to get in touch with your higher self before you cast more spells. The Colours of cats do matter:
White Cats: symbolise fertility and change in romantic affairs
Orange Cats: symbolise different planes of existence and spiritual travels
Black Cats: symbolise the change of Luck (for good or ill) and Wisdom
1. Pain In Your Head.
Pain in your head, like headaches, can be caused by stresses of the day. Take some time to relax and ease the stress every day.
2. Pain In Your Neck.
If you feel pain in your neck, you may have trouble forgiving others or yourself. If you’re feeling neck pain, consider the things you love about people.
3. Pain In Your Shoulders.
Shoulder pain may indicate that you’re carrying a heavy emotional burden. That’s where the saying “shouldering a problem” comes from. Focus in on some proactive problem solving and distributing some of that burden to other people in your life.
4. Pain In Your Upper Back.
Upper back pain means you don’t have enough emotional support. You may feel unloved and unwanted. If you’re single, this may mean it’s time to go out on a date or two.
Keep your conversations brief, don’t tackle all of this at once.
You’re eager to help your child, but it’s not always easy to accept positive, reassuring comments if you’ve been in a negative-thinking frame of mind. Expect some resistance at first. Especially if your child is not used to seeing things in a different light.
What else can you do?Create an environment of support, encouragement and teach frustration tolerance using these tips.
Ever wanted to be in more than one place at a time? That’s right, I’m talking about the super-human abilities that can be gained by those who follow the protocol for what’s known as sun-gazing, a valid practice recently confirmed by NASA.
Many proponents of this ancient technique, used by many cultures such as Mayan, Egyptian, Aztec, Tibetian and Indian yoga, report not only healing benefits to common illnesses, but obtaining super-human abilities such as advanced telepathy and going completely without the need for food.
Nikola Tesla quoted
“My idea is that the development of life must lead to forms of existence that will be possible without nourishment and which will not be shackled by consequent limitations. Why should a living being not be able to obtain all the energy it needs for the performance of its life functions from the environment, instead of through consumption of food, and transforming, by a complicated process, the energy of chemical combinations into life-sustaining energy?”
The Spiritual Awakening Symptoms
1. Body aches and pains, especially in the neck, shoulder and back. This is the result of intense changes at your DNA level as the "Christ seed" awakens within. More important, your Merkabah, energetic transportal Body, has/is being upgraded and made new. This will be explained and understood more fully as you progress. Suffice to say, ageing, dis-ease, and limitations are freed with-in this New Experiencing Device.
2. Feeling of deep inner sadness for no apparent reason. You are releasing your past (this lifetime and others) and this causes the feeling of sadness. Literally... pieces, parts... "aspects" of YOU are being seen and released/transmuted appropriately. Although, many may not seem difficult to release, others are comfortable personalities that must be reconciled. Say, "good bye," I love you. You have served me well. I no longer need you."
3. Crying for no apparent reason. Similar to #2 above. It's good and healthy to let the tears flow. It helps to release the old energy within. There's a multitude of emotional energies within you now... try not to focus on the "why" and just feel, allow..
1. You’re more in touch with your spiritual foundations through transformative meditation:
You realize, as Jung noted, that “the experience of the Self is always a defeat for the Ego.” And through the seven primary chakras you are becoming one with the cosmos, receptive to stimuli to which, in the time before, you were insensate.
You’ve felt the powerful kundalini energy rising up from your roots, passing through the sacred waters of the sacral, basking in the fire of the solar plexus, breathing in the vital breath of the heart, absorbing the ethereal voice of the throat, pouring through the dissolution of the Third Eye, and spilling up and out like a mighty fountainhead into the greater cosmos.
2. You are beginning to want more freedom and less stuff:
Your heart is not heavy with materialistic burden. You understand that ownership-based love can never be true love. You realize like Osho said, “Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.” And although there are some people in the world who are so poor all they have is money, you continue to love without expecting anything in return. You have frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation for the abundance the natural world has to offer. Like Gandhi, you live simply so that others may simply live.
5 Common Misconceptions About Psychics
When it comes to psychics, people think they know all about them. Funny thing is, being a psychic is often like any other career. It has its ups and downs as well as its misconceptions. Here are 5 common myths about psychics.
1.Psychics Just “Cold Read”
Many people (mostly skeptics) accuse psychics of being nothing more that “cold readers,” meaning they use tricks and techniques to get clients to reveal bits of information. Then the psychic turns them around, feeding them back to the client as a “psychic reading.”
Psychics are not mind readers. They don’t know your thoughts, but they can and do sense your energy and feelings.
Granted there are some unscrupulous posers that do this, but real psychics don’t. Psychics get their information from beyond the veil, often with the help of spirit guides and tools like the Tarot. In fact, many psychics are surprised themselves as to the details they receive!
2.Psychics Are Psychic 24/7
People often think that psychics are “on” all the time, but in all honesty, if they were, they’d go crazy. Could you imagine constantly being bombarded with messages, information and visions?
Being psychic is more like tuning into a TV station. You can change channels or even turn it off, but either way the psychic is in control.
3. Psychics Are Mind Readers Here’s another common misconception. People often say, “If you’re psychic, then when’s my birthday?” or some other similar question.Psychics are not mind readers. They don’t know your thoughts, but they can and do sense your energy and feelings. Coupled with their abilities they can pick up on why you’re feeling a certain way.
4. Psychics Can Predict the Future
Being psychic isn’t about predicting the future; rather it’s about seeing possible trends. The future is never set in stone and people have free will, so things can change at any time. The best a psychic can do is tell you about what might cross your path. What happens is up to you.
5.Psychics Can Remove Curses
Psychics who claim that you are cursed are most likely scammers, especially when they tell you they can remove the curse for a fee. Aside from the rare possession by demonic or negative entities, the only way you can be cursed is if you believe you are. And just for the record, psychics can’t put curses on people either. The only one with power over you is you.
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By: Marc and Angel You know how you can hear something a hundred times in a hundred different ways before it finally gets through to you? The ten truths listed below fall firmly into that category – life lessons that many of us likely learned years ago, and have been reminded of ever since, but for whatever reason, haven’t fully grasped.
This, my friends, is my attempt at helping all of us, myself included, “get it” and “remember it” once and for all…
1. The average human life is relatively short.
We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step. You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself off balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to the present moment and how the world really is.
LIVE your life TODAY! Don’t ignore death, but don’t be afraid of it either. Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action. Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive. Be bold. Be courageous. Be scared to death, and then take the next step anyway.
2. You will only ever live the life you create for yourself. Your life is yours alone. Others can try to persuade you, but they can’t decide for you. They can walk with you, but not in your shoes. So make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires, and don’t be scared to switch paths or pave a new one when it makes sense.
Remember, it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t. Be productive and patient. And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in. This is your life, and it is made up entirely of your choices. May your actions speak louder than your words. May your life preach louder than your lips. May your success be your noise in the end.
And if life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it. Even if you have no idea where you’re going to land, be brave enough to step up to the edge of the unknown, and listen to your heart. (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Passion and Growth” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
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“How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?” ~ Satchel PaigeThere is a special kind of person in our world who finds himself alone and isolated, almost since birth. His solitary existence isn’t from a preference or an antisocial temperament – he is simply old. Old in heart, old in mind and old in soul, this person is an old soul who finds his outlook on life vastly different and more matured than those around him. As a result, the old soul lives his life internally, walking his own solitary path while the rest around him flock to follow another. Perhaps you’ve experienced this in your own life, or have witnessed it in another person? If so, this article is dedicated to you, in hopes that you will come to define yourself, or understand another better.
The “Old Soul” Robert Frost, Eckhart Tolle and even Nick Jonas have been called them. Perhaps even you have? I did. Like many of them, this self discovery was made upon meetingSol, who told me about his childhood as a precocious, intelligent boy who would befriend the teachers instead of the students, just because they were too different from him. As he related his inability to find interest in and connection to the people his age, I discovered that I felt the same, and still do.
If you have not yet discovered whether you’re an old soul, read some of the revealing signs below.
9 Signs You’re An Old Soul
1# You tend to be a solitary loner. Because old souls are disinterested in the pursuits and interests of the people in their age groups, they find it dissatisfying to make friends with people they find it hard to relate to. The result is … old souls tend to find themselves alone a lot of the time. People just don’t cut it for them.
2# You love knowledge, wisdom and truth.
Yep … this seems a little grandiose and overly noble, but the old soul finds himself naturally gravitating towards the intellectual side of life. Old souls inherently understand that knowledge is power, wisdom is happiness and truth is freedom, so why not seek after those things? These pursuits are more meaningful to them than reading up on the latest gossip about Snooki’s latest boyfriend, or the latest football scores.
3# You’re spiritually inclined. More emotional old souls tend to have sensitive and spiritual natures. Overcoming the confines of the ego, seeking enlightenment and fostering love and peace are the main pursuits of these young-in-body Mother Teresa’s. To them it seems the wisest, most fulfilling use of time.
4# You understand the transience of life. Old souls are frequently plagued with reminders of not only their own mortality, but that of everything and everyone around them. This makes the old soul wary and at times withdrawn, but wisely dictates the way they live their lives.
5# You’re thoughtful and introspective. Old souls tend to think a lot … about everything. Their ability to reflect and learn from their actions and those of others is their greatest teacher in life. One reason why old souls feel so old at heart is because they have learnt so many lessons through their own thought processes, and possess so much insight into life situations from their ability to quietly and carefully observe what if going on around them.
6# You see the bigger picture.
Rarely do old souls get lost in the superficial details of getting useless degrees, job promotions, boob jobs and bigger TV’s. Old souls have the tendency to look at life from a birds eye view, seeing what is the most wise and meaningful way to approach life. When confronted with issues, old souls tend to see them as temporary and passing pains that merely serve to increase the amount of joy felt in the future. Consequently, old souls tend to have placid, stable natures as a result of their approach to life.
7# You aren’t materialistic. Wealth, status, fame, and the latest version of iPhone … they just bore old souls. The old soul doesn’t see the purpose of pursuing things that can be easily taken away from them. Additionally, old souls have little time and interest for the short-lived things in life, as they bring little meaning or long lasting fulfillment for them.
8# You were a strange, socially maladaptive kid.
This is not always the case, but many old souls exhibit odd signs of maturity at young ages. Often, these children are labelled as being “precocious”, “introverted”, or “rebellious“, failing to fit into the mainstream behaviors. Usually, these children are extremely inquisitive and intelligent, seeing the purposelessness of many things their teachers, parents and peers say and so, and either passively or aggressively resisting them. If you can talk to your child like he/she’s an adult – you’ve probably got an old soul on your hands.
9# You just “feel” old. Before putting a name to what I felt, I experienced certain sensations of simply being an “old person” inside. The feelings that accompany being an old soul are usually: a feeling of world wariness, mental tiredness, watchful patience, and detached calmness. Unfortunately, this can often be perceived as being aloof and cold, which is only one of many Old Soul Myths.
Just as some old people describe themselves as being “young at heart”, so too can young people be “old at heart”.
Are you an old soul? I’d love to hear your stories below.
Top 10 Spiritual Truths We Weren’t Taught in School
What would our world be like today of these top 10 spiritual truths were taught in our schools, in the mainstream media, and in our history books? How can we change the system to introduce these topics to our future generations? What will the world be like after successfully recognizing these spiritual truths?
1. We are spiritual beings on a human journey
Before we came down into this physical body, we planned out the point in time that we would begin to awaken to who and what we are. The womb of our mother was the tunnel of forgetting, and we knew the challenge of remembering would be tough. The biggest risk we took was never remembering. We were never disconnected from our source of light, however the connection was stretched very long and thin to reach this part of the universe in density. Our challenge is to strengthen this connection and to grow our pillar of light in remembrance and recognition of who we truly are.
2. Our souls never die
We just change our focus. As a spark of light from Source, we are infinitely connected to the flow of experience. When it is time to disconnect the cord of life from our physical body, our spark rises up and out of the human physical body. We take the experience of our lifetime with us, but our focus is changed to a slightly different level of vibration. We still exist as the person we were in human form as well as the many people we have been before. Every lifetime builds experience and wisdom.
Addiction to technology “is placing the screen as an object of ‘mass subculture’, alienating the relation to our own body, and more generally to the physical world.”Antonie Geiger is a 20-year-old photographer from France who has perfectly outlined how our electronics are sucking the life out of us. They consume out attention tricking us into thinking it is about affection and all the while distracting us from living our present physical lives.
When we are not grounded in the present moment we are disconnecting. Since many of us are on a path of seeking connection we need to remember to keep our electronic tools in balance with our interpersonal connections.
Antonie Geiger said the project was a part of some of the research he is doing in order to better understand this “mass subculture” where we are addicted to screens. We alienate anyone physically around us while we are fooled to think we are really connecting.
“Mankind, which in Homer’s time was an object of contemplation for the Olympian gods, is now one for itself. Its self-alienation has reached such a degree that it can experience its own destruction as aesthetic pleasure of the first order.” -Walter Banjamin
Health Concerns:Recently we talked about how the electronic fields around us are being pulled into our cells. These electrical signals could be interfering with our cells signals and in turn causing health problems.
Studies have shown us that using mobile phone frequently can cause impaired memory and concentration, fatigue, dizziness, headaches and disturbed sleep.
All of these medical issues come from radiation sickness and the radiation comes from the mobile phone. There are now also concerns in the medical world that some people may be developing electrosensitivity or IEI-EMF when they are over exposed to the electromagnetic fields of their phone.
Back in 2014 58% of the states World Health Organization advised the public to reduce their exposure to radio frequencies.
They advise that we use some sort of hands-free kit so the phone isn’t close to our bodies, to try and keep our phone calls shorter, avoid making phone calls when your battery or signal is low (radiation is higher when the phone signal is low), and to use phones what are designed to have a low specific absorption rate (SAR).
Other countries have already started to protect their children from over-exposure to electronics. For example in France WiFi was banned in toddlers’ nurseries and in 2015 Taiwan implemented a ban on toddlers under the age of two using a mobile phone or other similar electronic device.
Medical and psychological studies have shown that heavy cell phone use increases sleep disorders in men and increases depressive symptoms in both women and men.
People who are constantly reachable via their cell phone were much more likely to report issues with mental health. Maybe being constantly available isn’t good for us.
It isn’t just cell phones, in a study of men they found that overuse of computers causes sleep problems.
Using computers and other glowing screens at night is also linked with stress, depressive symptoms and sleep disorders in women and men.
If you work or play on a computer for long periods of time without breaks you are at risk for sleep problems, stress, and depressive symptoms.
The studies also found that those who use bother computer and phones excessively increased all of the above health risks.
Social ConcernsStatistically, in the US we are glued to our phones. We actually use them a lot more than we are aware. It becomes this deep-rooted impulse. Have you ever noticed that when you forget your phone you have an empty feeling? This pull, like an addiction, is very similar to all other distraction based addictions.
Magic happens in the present moment and yet we are seemingly terrified of being here.
We’ve all gone through hard times. And we all get through them. However, some get through them better than others. So what is their secret? Most of it has to do with attitude. Here are 13 things to remember when life gets rough:
1. What is, is.
Buddha’s famous saying tells us: “It is your resistance to ‘what is’ that causes your suffering.” Think about that for a minute. It means that our suffering only occurs when we resist how things are. If you can change something, then take action! Change it! But if you can’t change it, then you have two choices: (1) either accept it and let go of the negativity, or (2) make yourself miserable by obsessing over it.
2. It’s only a problem if you think it’s a problem.
Many times, we are our own worst enemy. Happiness is really dependent on perspective. If you think something is a problem, then your thoughts and emotions will be negative. But if you think it’s something you can learn from, then suddenly, it’s not a problem anymore.
3. If you want things to change, you need to start with changing yourself.
Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Don’t you know people whose lives are chaotic and stressful? And isn’t that largely because they feel chaotic inside? Yes, it is. We like to think that changing our circumstances will change us. But we have it backwards—we need to change ourselves first before our circumstances will change.
Your brain is not only a producer of thoughts, but a receiver too. Depending on what you tune it into, it will receive such information.
Cosmic information is all around us. We are, in a way, pieces of this Cosmic information. Everything is connected with everything else, and everything comes from the same source, you, The Earth, The Galaxy, everything!
The way we live our lives can steer us away from the Cosmic purpose we hold in our hearts. That’s why, sometimes, the Cosmic Intelligence can send us messages and updates to steer us back towards our heart’s purpose.
Sometimes these Cosmic messages can lead us to revolutionary ideas and inventions the world hasn’t seen yet.
Anyway, we all get Cosmic Information from time to time. However, not many people are aware when these messages show up in their lives and most of them get ignored.
Here is how to know when you are receiving Cosmic Information:
1. Sudden Inspiration
Inspiration is a mental stimulation to do something, create something.
It usually comes when you start scratching a subject you are passionate about.
Sudden inspiration is a sure sign that you are receiving Cosmic Information as you are being mentally stimulated to do something that will lead you back to your purpose.
2. DreamsAccording to some legends, a part of your soul goes into another world while you dream. This is the dream world, a world between your unconscious mind and reality.
In there you can receive important messages from your own subconsciousness, and from the Cosmic Intelligence.
Having dreams where you get new ideas, insights and advices about things you can’t possibly know, are a sure sign of receiving Cosmic Information.
3. Subconscious SignalWatching a movie where you suddenly hear something that answers a question you’ve been recently wondering about. Hearing a song that tells a message you feel you needed to hear. Reading a sign on the street that resonates so much with something you’ve been asking yourself.
All those examples are ways the Cosmic Intelligence is steering your subconsciousness to communicate with you.
Listen to what it tries to tell you!
4. Gravitating Towards an IdeaYou might be writing your new book or watching new series, you might be talking with your friends or wandering with your own thoughts, but whatever you do there is a certain idea you keep coming back to.
Whatever you do you are been drawn to a certain idea.
This is a sure sign the Cosmic Intelligence is trying to steer your attention towards something you need to focus on.
5. GeometryThey say geometry is the language of The Universe. There are certain shapes that are called sacred and these shapes hold powerful messages for each person.
Having a certain shape reappear in your life, sacred or not, is a sure sign there is a message that you need to decipher.
Numbers, shapes, even letters, they are all geometry. So anything that reappears should be carefully examined.
6. Surge of EmotionsInformation does not come only in a form of rational thought. Sometimes information is abstract and emotional. It is this kind of information that gives us the deepest answers.
Getting a surge of emotions can come as a result of many factors.
But a sudden surge of emotions, usually accompanied with a sense of clarity and motivation is a sure sign of receiving Cosmic Information.
7. LoveFeeling a sense of love, not for any particular thing or person, but for everything around you, is one of the best states you can be in.
Even more, this is the state where your body’s receptors for Cosmic Light are activated making you able to absorb Cosmic Energy, receive its information and upgrade your DNA.
Coming to this sense of unconditional love sometimes happens suddenly, and you don’t even know why you feel like you feel that particular day. You just feel like you love everyone and everything. This is a sure sign you are receiving Cosmic Information.
There is a stillness and a peace in the early morning which is unlike any other hour of the day.
Between the time of 5am-6am there is a calmness that when observed, can really change your life.
Only a year ago I was between jobs, unsure of what to do next and uncertain of my path.
During this time in my life I heard the calling to wake up early in the morning and mediate in order to find clarity on what to do next.
Every morning at 5.30am I would drag myself out of bed, wrap myself in a blanket and retreat to my mediation space. Some mornings were easy, but other mornings I found that sitting in stillness was just not working, which led me to create my own morning rituals.
After just a few weeks of doing these rituals every morning for about 30 minutes per day, I started to gain clarity and receive clear and strong messages about my purpose. I also had a lot more inspiration and confidence throughout the day.
It was actually through my morning rituals that I decided to devote more of my time to this website and get it to a point where I could do it full-time. Now, just 9 months later running this website sustains me enough to make it my full time job.
Whether you are looking for clarity about your purpose, a relationship or even your life in general, adopting these 5 morning rituals that changed my life will also help to change your life too- If I can do it, you can too.
Here are 5 Morning Rituals that will help you discover your purpose and change your life:
1. Awaken EarlyDepending on where you live, getting up just before the sun is about to rise is the perfect time to start your rituals. For most, this means getting up between 5am-6am.
The timing you choose to do these rituals is important because the energy that is present in the early hours of the morning is said to help stimulate creative flow, harmony and also peace.
All of these factors are going to better help you tap into your purpose and clear out any mental clutter that may be blocking you.
When the world is still quiet and calm there are also less distractions and less things stopping you from stepping into the work.
Trust me, once you see how fun and amazing the work is, getting up this early will not feel as bad!
If you are already an early riser, aim to rise about 30 minutes earlier than usual, while it may be a lifestyle adjustment the rewards are well worth it!
2. MeditateDon’t worry, if the thought of sitting in lotus is not appealing to you, there are other ways you can do this.
While some mornings you may feel compelled to sit in silence, other mornings it may be beneficial to do a guided mediation.
There are plenty of free guided meditations available on channels like YouTube. Some of my favourite guided mediation instructors include: Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer and Abraham Hicks.
You can also download sound bowls/gongs, healing music or inaugural beats and have them on a playlist ready to go for the morning.
You can sit up in lotus position, lay down or sit up with your back against a wall or propped up on a cushion. You definitely don’t want to fall back asleep, but being comfortable is also important.